tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post7061054481155101461..comments2023-03-25T02:06:02.847-07:00Comments on Thinking in My Head: Speak or Hold Your PeaceMichael Annhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08085444510827793704noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-25382779978834702982011-09-18T09:24:39.449-07:002011-09-18T09:24:39.449-07:00Hi Michael Ann! I come from the opposite side of t...Hi Michael Ann! I come from the opposite side of the pole--I'm more of the quiet type and most of the time, prefer to hold them in. And I agree with you that eventually pent up emotions come out in not so good ways. It happened to me several times. Yikes!<br /><br />This is a great post, Michael Ann! I love your insights! And I'd love to learn more from you!<br /><br />Take care! :-)<br /><br />IreneIrenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10328342211129410370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-46544663864285375432011-09-17T09:26:43.699-07:002011-09-17T09:26:43.699-07:00I love it that comments are still coming in! It...I love it that comments are still coming in! It's fun to read them. I try to respond personally if I can connect to your email. Julie, you bog is a great place for your emotional "vomit." :-) Nancy, it's good to know even the professionals can make mistakes. Angie, that is a great way to start a tough conversation! I might steal that.. :) Thank you, Nancy H. Bella, me too! It's taken me a long time to "mature." I'm still working on it!Michael Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08085444510827793704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-1436319926457443432011-09-17T07:57:35.055-07:002011-09-17T07:57:35.055-07:00What a great post!! My fiancee and I have this com...What a great post!! My fiancee and I have this communication tool that we use often. If we need to vent we go to each other with, "Okay, I really need to vent...will you listen to me?" Or, "I'm having a problem with my feelings...will you help me?" This works well for US, but doesn't work well with other people in our lives. We understand each other, where others have no clue.Alil Country Sugarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13770881689504257124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-2462470216709358802011-09-17T07:47:41.792-07:002011-09-17T07:47:41.792-07:00Hi Michael Ann, I too am an external processor. It...Hi Michael Ann, I too am an external processor. It really helps to get things out where I can examine and make sense of them. I love your post. It takes courage to publicly display one's feelings. Blogging has helped me do that. Thanks, Michael Ann for an insightful postNancy Hinchliffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12720207101341835900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-4247514915593842392011-09-16T20:02:38.583-07:002011-09-16T20:02:38.583-07:00Michael Ann, back in the day when I was young and ...Michael Ann, back in the day when I was young and foolish, I would blurt out whatever came to mind without thinking twice of the impact my words might have. Thankfully, the years have softened my edges and granted me the ability to measure the weight of my words, adjust my pitch and tone, and deliver my message with class. Unfortunately, this doesn't always hold true when I'm angry. I'm afraid I still have much to learn! :)Bellahttp://gypsyroxylee.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-7585829513412897312011-09-16T19:29:17.480-07:002011-09-16T19:29:17.480-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Nancy Hinchliffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12720207101341835900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-71567294425462214632011-09-16T17:46:33.344-07:002011-09-16T17:46:33.344-07:00I'm a professional communicator, meaning I tea...I'm a professional communicator, meaning I teach and coach professionals in communication skills, but that hasn't made me immune from making my own share of mistakes. As you say, Michael Ann, it's a matter of respect and kindness when it comes to our interactions with others.Nancyhttp://www.wanderlustandlipstick.com/blogs/wanderboomer/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-40238130998665796642011-09-16T13:46:31.670-07:002011-09-16T13:46:31.670-07:00Loved your post. I am a person who vomits info abo...Loved your post. I am a person who vomits info about myself to others....much to their dismay I'm sure. But I am very careful with what I say and how I say it concerning anything other than myself.Juliehttp://juliefarley.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-23247409314488391142011-09-16T13:10:00.108-07:002011-09-16T13:10:00.108-07:00I am a talker and a venter you need to get it out ...I am a talker and a venter you need to get it out because if you leave it in it will eat you up inside.Mommy Bagshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14016498338534458441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-32803041551710514422011-09-15T21:43:31.181-07:002011-09-15T21:43:31.181-07:00I am amazed and overwhelmed by all your comments. ...I am amazed and overwhelmed by all your comments. Thank you all so much for visiting and for contributing to our conversation here!Michael Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08085444510827793704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-25022863773286989352011-09-15T19:11:00.073-07:002011-09-15T19:11:00.073-07:00Hmmmmm...saying something as a decision rather tha...Hmmmmm...saying something as a decision rather than a reaction...that's deep. :) Actually I've been working on that a lot - but with my anger -- I'm so impatient. I'm always overtired (not trying to make excuses but exhaustion really complicates things) and I REACT so often. My goal in life is to learn how to calm the heck down and respond, rather than react. Maybe someday.renegademotheringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01802761166921895446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-51908021166848701272011-09-15T18:00:21.506-07:002011-09-15T18:00:21.506-07:00There is definitely a time to speak and a time to ...There is definitely a time to speak and a time to leave it unsaid. I 'm thinking about marriage or family matters and when things have bugged us for years and nothing has changed. To keep speaking becomes nagging. Yet, when I have dared speak emotions at times it has been the best thing.Shandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14337476167174497223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-91892791332810886152011-09-15T14:14:04.153-07:002011-09-15T14:14:04.153-07:00A decision ... not a reaction, exactly!
Delighted...A decision ... not a reaction, exactly!<br /><br />Delighted to meet you today. I hope you don't mind if I splash around a bit to get to know you. This looks like a nice place to slip off my shoes and jump in.<br /><br />Splashin,<br />SarahSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17295906251145450659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-45462348086838250142011-09-14T09:54:36.531-07:002011-09-14T09:54:36.531-07:00Great points! I completely agree that some people ...Great points! I completely agree that some people (especially on reality TV as you mentioned) use the "well, I'm just being honest" as an excuse to say whatever they want with no regards to consequences. And I know I have of course spoken out of emotion or said things I later regret as well. I think it's important to realize that we can be honest and genuine, without being adversarial and hurtful. Sometimes it just goes back to the whole, "If you don't have anything nice to say..." way of communicating!Carynhttp://www.balanceoverload.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-66991678074642350412011-09-14T04:06:27.739-07:002011-09-14T04:06:27.739-07:00My mom always said, "Better out than in."...My mom always said, "Better out than in." I think it's unhealthy to keep things bottled in. It actually gives me a headache and I feel so much better to just express whatever's going on.Totsymaehttp://www.totsymae.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-74143035446352548252011-09-13T20:19:24.580-07:002011-09-13T20:19:24.580-07:00Michael Ann, this post was like cake and the song....Michael Ann, this post was like cake and the song... the creamy buttermilk icing, to top if off. I think I need to download this song and play it before engaging in certain enviroments, as a reminder to think before speaking.Reneehttp://www.successfullysurvivingsexualabuse.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-62039670304844626382011-09-13T20:06:09.307-07:002011-09-13T20:06:09.307-07:00That’s right girl, tell it!
I’ve said my share...That’s right girl, tell it! <br />I’ve said my share of words regretted. And I’ve learned to journal as a result ;-) <br />Who wants to hear an endless rant… or be told off… or wounded with words that can never be recalled? Words can be a blessing or a curse. I chose blessing. (Or journaling).Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02273349436461781371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-19955140139123198852011-09-13T19:19:09.672-07:002011-09-13T19:19:09.672-07:00Good message. I was quiet growing up, but after m...Good message. I was quiet growing up, but after my career and then becoming a stay-at-home mom, I learned that life is short and it's a lot more fun and fulfilling to put yourself out there more. We grow, we learn, we adapt. I'm your newest follower, following back from http://www.mama-press.comTracy @ Mama-presshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04934747263217204150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-44971261322160295822011-09-13T17:13:48.799-07:002011-09-13T17:13:48.799-07:00You are so right about the consequences of speakin...You are so right about the consequences of speaking before thinking or to vent without considering the effect of your words on someone else. Personally, I'm one who keeps things inside. In fact, I'm about to meet with my second therapist in my whole life (in one year, I've gotten involved with therapists, something I never thought I'd do), and I don't think I can talk to him. It's just...weird. Communication is such an important concept. I prefer to keep my conversational communication to a minimum. Now as for my blog? Well. I just spew verbal vomit there.Laura@Catharsishttp://findcatharsis.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-29691460343673821752011-09-13T06:32:55.168-07:002011-09-13T06:32:55.168-07:00As a child I was terribly shy and never wanted to ...As a child I was terribly shy and never wanted to say a thing. As I grew older, when I had something I wanted to say it often came out wrong because I'd blurt before I thought. Now I think I blurt because I feel like I'm going to forget what I want to say before I get it out. It is still a challenge for me to wait and think before I speak. Unfortunately, I can't go back and edit what I say like I can when I find typos and wrong phrasing in my writing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-14375593183018538452011-09-12T21:57:42.237-07:002011-09-12T21:57:42.237-07:00Good point! I find the combination of journaling,...Good point! I find the combination of journaling, blogging, and good girlfriends combined with my Latin temper and fire sign rarely keep me from holding much in. The trick is to do it gracefully. I'm working on how to do it politically at work...that's a hard one!<br /><br />http://mamawolfe-living.blogspot.comJennifer Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11114021307777091105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-2051154950081180952011-09-12T20:40:24.647-07:002011-09-12T20:40:24.647-07:00I process in the same way you do Michael Ann and t...I process in the same way you do Michael Ann and think its a pretty healthy way to do so! I agree that it's important to check our reasons and motives for being 'honest' sometimes, and make sure our personality or style doesn't hurt others. Thanks for sharing about this important topic.Elizabeth Younghttp://gardengatewares.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-28002852629437855132011-09-12T20:33:46.623-07:002011-09-12T20:33:46.623-07:00Leah, that is wonderful that you and your husband ...Leah, that is wonderful that you and your husband have grown together in communication. That's sometimes hard to change your natural inclination. Steve, you crack me up! Carol, you make a great point about body language too. Thanks for all the comments.Michael Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08085444510827793704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-37944748423509169922011-09-12T19:18:01.409-07:002011-09-12T19:18:01.409-07:00Good post and so true. I think I am considered on ...Good post and so true. I think I am considered on the quiet side among poeple who know me, but there have been times I have said too much or the wrong thing, and every time I do that it costs me big time in regret. I've learned by experience, especially in the office context, to think before I speak. I try to make it a policy to never say anything negative about another person in public. Sometimes though, opinions will slip out, even through tone of voice or body language. The tongue is a powerful tool for either good or evil, and hard to control, as the Bible says.Carol Applehttp://www.carolsnotes.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8707691620834774755.post-56066152105608715562011-09-12T18:17:24.586-07:002011-09-12T18:17:24.586-07:00I would post a comment here, but I'd rather ma...I would post a comment here, but I'd rather maintain the mystery...;-)Steve Putmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01353320139844328125noreply@blogger.com